Breaking The Silence And The Price It Exacts

Hear New Horizon's Board Member, Lynn Cullather-Popkin and Anastasia broadcast, now on podcast, an uplifting discussion on Anastasia's "crossing over," from deep distress to exhilaration, as she managed the pressures and negativity of her Ethics Complaint ordeal.

After going "Fully #MeToo Public" on her last Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Show, Anastasia returns this week to begin exploring the ordeal she experienced throughout most of 2018, with a focus on the price exacted of her in breaking her silence, as a result of her filing a formal Ethics Complaint for sexual harassment and abuse of power of her, by her long-term psychiatrist mentor, Martin G. Groder, M.D.. 

Having reached out to the accrediting association, the International Transactional Analysis Association, whose training practices, standards and credentials were involved, Anastasia found herself up against an Ethics Committee that caused her almost as much harm as did her abuser, in her reaching out to them for guidance, support and reconciliation.

Through her storytelling of what turned out to be a horrendous experience where conflict resolution and healing had been expected, Anastasia wishes to invite discussion from others, having similar encounters.  So, listeners, please do call in at: 646.564.9608 to talk with Anastasia for this important program and related ones to follow.

More than anything else, Anastasia wishes, now, to be able to pass on guidance and support, along with the wisdom she gained through pain, plus her professional expertise in handling situations of this nature, to others who are, now, finding themselves up against similar circumstances.

Anastasia welcomes this opportunity for service, afforded her via the platform of her Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Show, especially as, no matter how difficult was her circumstance –

ANASTASIA CAME OUT A WINNER WHICH IS WHAT SHE WAS ALWAYS AFTER MOST!!

Join Anastasia as she broadcasts –

Breaking The Silence And The Price It Exacts

Monday, January 14 11:30 a.m.

For personal consultations with Anastasia, contact her at Super Sleuth'd Coaching And Consulting.

The Dark Side Warrior In My Backyard: A Commentary By Anastasia

See the full article on Exploring Your Dark Side: The Adventure Of A Lifetime, as Anastasia shares details of her sexual harassment abuser.

The Morning After My “True” Ethics Complaint Healing Took Root

Coming soon!

"How Transactional Analysts And Other Presumed "Good Guys," Such As Local #MeToo Groups, Can Do More Harm Than Good"

I awaken today to the morning, feeling fully liberated and joyous in my aliveness.  

Every cell of my being is awake to the notion that the Goddess is alive in me and magic is afoot!

It is the morning after the two-day rite of passage, with my most recent Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Shows, created to formally begin my cleansing of the Ethics Complaint stench I endured in the past year.–

I hope you will listen to them –

The Cost Of The Quiet, The Price Of Breaking The Silence and

Anastasia Goes Fully #MeToo Public, At Last, With Her Secret Stories

And, join me in celebrating and discovering what comes after #MeToo. With these two radio shows and the support of the dear, loving people of my support community,  I have brought myself into a new era, beyond #MeToo.

Is there anyone else out there in the world, beyond my chosen few, thinking about what lies beyond #MeToo?

I hope so as it would be so wonderful to be celebrating, with others, the joy and liberation I am feeling this morning after.

Until I can begin to find more like-minded, like-hearted others, I think I will need to content myself with the smallish, devoted, loving support community I have surrounding me now, a true small “zone of peace,” made up primarily of the New Horizons Board of Directors and others in the New Horizons Truth Or Dare Community, both of which are of my establishing.

Darn! Sometimes taking the lead is wearing!

And I will, additionally, apparently, need to content myself with my writing and posting my blog articles and doing my radio shows.  Hopefully, these will be enough to invite like-minded, like-hearted others to come forward to me.

But do please come out, wherever you are, as soon as you can!

While I am doing this part on my end, with the hope of finding these kindred spirits, I will also, in my new, upgraded Goddess life, start becoming ever more vocal about how I have come to view groups and organizations such as the International Transactional Analysis Association (ITAA), that failed me miserably, in my view, and even specially #MeToo-focused groups like my local #MeToo network and the nationally established Silence Breakers organization, perpetuating the gender mayhem we are currently in, post-Harvey Weinstein.

All this is coming, soon. 

However, right now the sun is shining and the day is warming a bit. So I must go out and be in the beauty rather than sitting here at my computer looking out at it.

The Cost Of The Quiet, The Price Of Breaking The Silence

Anastasia goes public this week, for the first time, identifying her Ethics Complaint perpetrator, at long last!

Opening up about details, on Anastasia The Storyteller Radio, of her/my #MeToo Ethics Complaint, Anastasia (Me) will carefully begin to unlock the portal of long-buried stories, related to the sexual harassment and retaliating power abuse of her by a former  mentor.

Anastasia takes this next step with the hope that telling her tale will, someday, free her from the "costs of the quiet"-- and -- maybe, in some distant future, help to bring healing to herself and others, especially her children and grandchildren, who have, unknowingly, been harmed by her need to keep secrets where harm has been done, including within her own family.

And, in the instances directly related to this ethics complaint where the cost of the quiet and the price of breaking the silence began to mimic some of Anastasia's earliest, most painful lessons, learned in her family, I/she now looks forward to and anticipates a new way of journeying theough life, unencumbered by important unrevealed information.

With New Horizons Board Member, Terry.

Join us, this week –

Friday, December 21 at 1:00 p.m.

“The Cost Of The Quiet, The Price Of Breaking The Silence”

And –

Saturday, December 22 at tba

"Anastasia Goes Fully #MeToo Public, At Last, With Her Long-Held Secret Stories"

Anastasia Is Beginning To Feel Happy Again, Yeah!

If you’ve been following the saga of my Ethics Complaint ordeal I bet you’ll be pleased to know I am beginning to be happy again!

The hammering on my head has stopped, relieving the corresponding pounding going on inside of me. 

I am soooo relieved to be free of it all, at last!

Yes, I took a bit of a beating. But I believe, at this point, that I gave as good as I got and better!

I’ll tell you about that, in due time!

So I am coming away wiser, more resilient and better than ever to captain the New Horizons Small “Zones Of Peace” Project and its newest initiative Beyond Gender Tyranny. 

How much more knowledgeable and skillful at handling the dark side of personal #MeToo offenders and organizational b.s. do you think a professional coach/consultant can get than a female #MeToo survivor, coming out on top, against all odds! 

That’s what “super sleuthing” is about!

Want to find out more about this high wave I’m riding?

Listen in and call in at:  646.564.9608 to my forthcoming radio show broadcast, with my co-host and New Horizons Board Member, Steve –

Coping When #MeToo Hits You

Sunday, November 4 11:30 a.m.

-- to hear how I’ve managed this incredible feat, liberation and happiness, up against an inordinately trying #MeToo ordeal.

Our show description goes like this:

Anastasia and co-host, Steve, follow up their most recent Beyond Gender Tyranny Online Course show on the theme of “Managing The Chaos Of Lives Run Amuck,” with Steve interviewing Anastasia on the subject of how she, personally, has been coping with a #MeToo-related ordeal.

For starters, if you are wondering how my vastly increased happiness came about, check out this story “Perks For Board Members: New Horizons Truth Or Dare GAME.” That story covers the highlights of what brought me, just this past week, to feeling a bit like my old self that I really like, pre-Ethics Complaint issues. 

Maybe, even a bit like pre-blindness 1998!
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New Horizons Board Members Truth Or Dare GAME of last Saturday, along with the support and community re-building that went with it, did it for me! 

In particular the post- GAME telephone support helped me to feel more like my old self than I have in all these past months. All combined gave me what I needed to start coming back to my normal and beyond!

Imagine that! 

For the first time in all these many months of dealing with the ITAA (International Transactional Analysis Association) Ethics Committee (EC), at the GAME I experienced myself as functioning in  a fully congruent reality that I was able to take with me after and have it settle into my daily life. 

If ever there was an antidote to crazy-making and chaos, New Horizons Truth Or Dare GAME sure gave it to me, lining me up, along with other board members in attendance, living the truth of these words of Gandhi –

Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony.

The whole of that GAME was liberating, refreshing, revitalizing and awesome for me! 

Like coming home for the holidays can be when love and good cheer is abundant.

You absolutely can’t beat that kind of happiness, in my book. 

For the second time (the first time was last month) I was hanging out with a group of people, albeit a small one, who are truly committed to being compassionate, caring, devoted to transparency, accountability, truth and reality and discount-free relating. 

At New Horizons we call that a small "zone of peace"!!

That’ll do it for me, every time!

Top of the line!

I hope you will want to seek out New Horizons Truth Or Dare GAME for yourself -- and -- bring your friends, when we begin extending guest invitations. 

I don't know anyone who couldn't use a bit of practice with telling, hearing and managing the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth in relationships, if  quality is what you are after, especially in this day and age.

In the meantime, read a bit about last Saturday’s GAME here.

Ethics Complaint Update: How Anastasia Is Managing The Chaos In Her Life Run Amuck, Revealed, Surprisingly, In Yesterday’s Broadcast

In a surprising turn of events on yesterday's radio show broadcast, Anastasia, Me, opened up with more detail than ever previously, about my ITAA (International Transactional Analysis Association) Ethics Complaint (EC) ordeal, sharing some of the tone and textures of what I/she has been enduring for the past ten months.

You can hear this most telling part around fourteen minutes into the show, now on podcast.

Managing The Chaos Of Lives Run Amuck

I was shocked and a bit shaken up with what I had so unexpectedly done, telling much more than I had planned.  If you read my announcing of that show, you will see that I had intended that we focus on Steve's chaos.

Now I am wondering, how did I get into mine?

The answer I am giving myself is this:

Telling our stories, people listening to our stories and letting us know what they hear is so much of the necessary healing we must experience when life's circumstances tear apart our ordinary stability and sense of self. With this, caring, compassionate and respectful others help us regain our wholeness! 

Knowing this to be true is likely how and why, after hearing some of Steve's story and how I knew his telling was liberating him, sentence by sentence, I, spontaneously,  wanted what I knew he was getting, for me too!

Please do listen and please write me your reactions!  I have a whole lot of healing to do! And, sharing our stories or just being listened to is priceless.

I want to hear from you!  And, I need to hear from you!

I, Anastasia, can be reached by cell at: 240.409.5347 or 
email at: mountainwomanrj@aol.com. 

Please leave a message, if you do not get me directly! I will return all calls as promptly as I am able. Thank you.

I am hoping my opening up a bit more will inspire you, too, to share some of your own feelings, thoughts and experiences.  Perhaps more than you intend.

Steve and I, supported by New Horizons Support Network, as our sponsoring organization for our two shows, are heading into creating not only an online, radio broadcast discussion forum with our two #MeTo-oriented radio shows. 

But we are, also, gearing up for an after-show conference call support group, in the form of "old" New Horizons, a support group model that made New Horizons and myself famous in the Washington, D.C. region, for close to twenty-five years.

Look for more details to be forthcoming.

Anastasia Turning Lead Into Gold: Managing The Chaos Of Lives Run Amuck

What's the lead into gold part, you wonder?

It's the putting to good use what a person, such as myself, learns from the hard times to build the joyful, rewarding times.

Join New Horizons Board Member and radio show co-host, Steve, and myself, Anastasia, as we take up the second of the “new” Possible Society In Motion Radio Show series, dedicated to our offering online guidance, support and specific tools to help listeners move beyond gender tyranny.

Our topic for tomorrow, Managing The Chaos Of Lives Run Amuck, will expand on our discussion of last week titled "#MeToo And The Issue Of Chaos" with Steve, this week, exploring what he thinks he has needed and will need to continue to move beyond the chaos brought into his life several months ago by an "in house hurricane." 

Steve's fiancée accused him of doing violence to her, called in the police and left, charges of which New Horizons "super sleuthing" efforts convinced us he was innocent.

Steve will talk about what the experience has taught him about male-female relationships, especially in this era of #MeToo while Anastasia offers support, guidance and general tips for listeners who are also wanting to get out of the gender traps of today.

Join us, if you can, at the odd hour this show will broadcast. Or listen on podcast.

Managing The Chaos Of Lives Run Amuck

 Thursday, October 25  11:30 a.m.

Lead Into Gold In The Face Of Injustice

Links to be added tomorrow.

When I awoke this morning, without my usual dread, yet still coming out of a moderately sleepless night, I realized how firmly I had decided that I was no longer willing to allow the Ethics Committee (EC) of the International Transactional Analysis Association (ITAA) to pull me down into the chaos of their machinations.

Before now, it had been beyond my wildest imaginings that this organization of elite mental health professionals, educators and organizational consultants could go so far off the mark, so wrong, in their handling of a professional practices complaint!

Especially a well documented complaint of a #MeToo-type, in this era.

All along, up until the end, I had high hopes that the ITAA organization, representing the Transactional Analysis (TA) philosophy of I’m O.K, You’re O.K. and game-free relationship interacting, would provide an exemplary management of this kind of  problem, unlike Harvey Weinstein and Company and other businesses and organizations, where gender corruption had not yet seen the light of a better day.

Not so, here! The games people play were at their peak in this process, involving me, even in this organization.

OMG!!! But that’s how it’s been!

And, that’s how it came to be that I quit and they fired me!

It was a dark situation from the onset; not at all where I belong.  Yet I couldn’t quite decide to leave it alone for a good while, having needs of a most serious nature to be derived from what I had formally put in for.

Still being the Super Sleuth that I am, I carefully watched what I could see, almost not able to believe what was happening before my eyes, registering full well what was occurring while, simultaneously, doing my utmost to reverse the darkness I was witnessing. 

Quite a feat, I might add, being called upon, not only to manage all my formal Ethics Complaint entailed, personally, as a victim in the situation, but also a fixer of the dysfunction I saw and tried, gracefully, to report.

But, of course, I am only one person. And I was up against a powerful, international organization that cared for me, as an individual, less than for a hill of ants. Thus to date, I’ve been, but am no longer, enduring ten months of committee dysfunction and serious discounting of my essential person hood.

It was awful!

This added to the shock, occasional confusion, pain and various other forms of distress, I was undergoing, attempting to find healing and reconciliation for a legitimate, well-documented Ethics Complaint against a former clinical trainer of mine for sexual harassment and power abuse.

It was quite more than enough for me!

To get myself out of this Ethics Complaint mindset of oppression I’ve been living under -- and -- into sustaining the sense of liberation and transformation I shared the other day in “Ethics Complaint Update: Anastasia Was Not O.K.! And, Then She Was Awesome!” , a new series of stories will officially be presented on this site, beginning Wednesday, October 24.

With this intent, I will take up the effort of representing some of what I stand for most, the rewards that can potentially be derived out of the personal and communal alchemical discipline of purposefully turning human lead into gold, darkness into light.

“Lead Into Gold” will, therefore, take precedence from here forth, beginning Wednesday, over my “Ethics Complaint Update” series of articles.

I will have more Ethics Complaint Update articles, I believe, but they will no longer weigh down my days, writing them, nor censor what I dare say in sharing my stories, as has been the case now for months!

Look for this coming series that promises to be filled with inspiration and lessons for living a #MeToo transforming life. Signifying, without doubt, that for me enough got to be quite enough!

Here is how I came to this new plan, shifting my main headline for the past months, “Ethic Complaint Update” to “Lead Into Gold.”

I woke up this morning feeling the surge in my body that has helped me trek up the steep mountain road that is my baseline, favorite daily exercise. I had been tackling this challenging ground numerous times over the past week, determined to get myself, with a focus on my body, out of the rut the ordeal of my Ethics Complaint experience had imposed on me.

OMG!! The banging on my head had been interminable! Now, at last, I was free!

Whistle blower, me, bailed out of the craziness, of a mental health-oriented organization that followed up by firing me, revenge for my whistle blowing!  

But not before I called out the game!

For ten months I have been held hostage to procedures of the ITAA EC that made only minimal sense to my mind -- and -- its decades of experience, so successfully managing the various kinds of conflicts human affairs can engender as to have garnered acclaim for this very thing.

But in this instance, with the ITAA EC, I was relying on others I assumed to be skillful in ways similar to my own, and, perhaps, in some, possibly more advanced.

Needless to say they failed me miserably!

If being blind made a Shaman of me – and – indeed it has, dealing with the ITAA EC refined my abilities in this sphere of spiritually processing earthly challenges, beyond measure.  I cannot yet attest to being able to walk on water that those of a much more advanced class than myself can do. But I sure do know how to die a thousand ego deaths and turn the lead of my personhood into gold! 

Of this I am quite certain!

Thank the Goddess that is alive in every woman, as well as some men, for the wisdom and courage for this god-given capacity of mine to have seen me through the ordeal I’ve been experiencing, on the way to what I formerly believed was the best of my life and myself.

Obviously I was in error in thinking that a healing return on my part to the ITAA would bring me this, a viewpoint I am presently in the process of altering.

I am not only emotionally drained, but angry and resentful for what has occurred. 

I also have great sorrow and grieve for hopes and dreams now put aside. 

But this is what strength and love of self, others and ideals can bring about, reaching for the sky, one can bump one’s head!

More on this and many other Anastasia The Storyteller tales of coming out of the Darkness imposed on me into the Light of me that has been fighting so hard these past many months, always affirming to myself that...

“Darkness does not drive away darkness. Only love can do that.”

This is how lead transforms into gold, person by person, in spite of darkness, in this case, where organizational priorities and politics overshadowed good common sense and the innate human capacity that lies within each and every one of us for civility, compassion, integrity and respect. 

Unfortunately, in this instance legalese and organizational gyrations had taken a wrong turn away from human decency.

Anastasia Proudly Announces --

Super Sleuth’d Coaching And Consulting
Specializing in transforming the darkness in individuals, relationships, communities, businesses and organizations, including #MeToo-related issues.

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I am free! And so should you be too!

Our objective is the liberation and transformation of the human spirit, mind and body!

In a manner that frees every woman, man and child who has ever been sexually harassed/assaulted or abused, in any way, shape or form, by someone in a power-over position.

Services

• Phone and email coaching and consultations;
• Online coaching programs, on Anastasia The Storyteller and The Possible Society In Motion Radio, partnering with the New Support Network, Inc., (New Horizons is a 501 C (3). All fees are tax deductible donations.);
• Truth Or Dare GAME training events;
• Speaking engagements and seminars.

Contact Anastasia for details

Anastasia Rosen-Jones 
Executive Director and Founder 
Cell: 240.409.5347, email: mountainwomanrj@aol.com

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