Thursday, March 15, 2018

Tell And Tremble

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On February 8, I posted a blog titled “Metoo Storytelling To Be Featured At “Beyond Gender Tyranny Forum For Men and Women,” In that piece I used this biblical quote – 
“For whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed, and whatever is concealed is meant to be brought out into the open.”  (Mark 4:11, 21-22)
I wanted, with these words, to introduce the profound uplifting, healing power of storytelling,  as I know it, provided there are receptive story listeners on the receiving end. And I wanted to emphasize that, not only can storytelling help us overcome polarization, as with the various issues New Horizons has been addressing, over the past dozen or so years at our Coffee House Conversations program, but that we can also bring that kind of process and rewarding outcome into the area, now, of gender dissonance.

We, as women, are a long time coming to this time of opening doors on the part of men being willing to hear women’s “true” voices. 

Still the telling, and the listening, are an arduous uphill climb; a mighty steep one, at that. 

No doubt it will be a long time coming, yet, before the commitment of men to genuinely hear what we are saying, fully, becomes widespread – and – indisputably productive and change-effecting, at the deepest levels.

Few men have this level of commitment that will alter their lives, as well as our own. I write this with much experience to back me up, having known well what it takes of a man to go this distance. I've truly known the "good," the bad and the ugly! I'll take the good, of course!

Over the years, experience with our male counterparts, has led us to silence ourselves, knowing that our words and their import would likely be dismissed or minimized. So prevalent has been  this state of affairs as our regular fare that rather than develop fully in our capacity to communicate the deepest parts of ourselves, instead we modified ourselves to fit the various cultures in which we lived, worked and played.

This silencing, however, was not only in the hands of the men but also in the general culture of our homes, our schools, our churches, synagogues and mosques and our places of work. “Culture” is as much a part of the collusion that keeps us silent as is any one individual, group or type. Even the most solid of us can succumb to these pressures of culture. 

A painful reminder of the power culture has to impact our emotions and our actions, crossed my desk this morning, as I read a statement by Aly Raisman about the conditions at the Karolyi Ranch, reported in the Washington Post.  Headlines quoted Ms. Raisman saying -- 
“Conditions at Karolyi Ranch made athletes vulnerable to Nassar.”
There is no doubt that the conditions of a culture can make even adults vulnerable. While the forces may be typically so powerful that it is known, full well, that retaliation and punishment will be the price for the whistle blower. The lessons of the Holocaust remind us of this again and again. As a Jewish woman, I know I never forget!

Culture, as we know, if we step back far enough to observe it, can be wearing while breaking with culture can sometimes be deadly, in large and small ways.  The one who chooses to step out and suggest that the almighty emperor has no clothes is far from rewarded.

The radio show I did last Saturday with my honorary daughter and New Horizons Board Member, Terry, brought the issue of silence and breaking silence home to me in a way that left me trembling – and – then, later, a new release from hiding some of the most important parts of me! 

Terry and I did a wonderful show, as far as I’m concerned. In the area of storytelling and story listening I think we were almost exemplary, with just the right amount, most of the time, of giving and taking.

Things were so fine that we both allowed ourselves to share, spontaneously, more and more of our deep, innermost thoughts, experiences, beliefs and perspectives. We were going along so well that, at least on my end and I think, also on hers, we both almost forgot we were broadcasting a show that would be recorded and archived for all time, if we allowed it to be other than erased; an option that did exist and that we both thought, briefly, maybe we should elect to do. (In the end, we did not. So you will be able to hear it, using this link.)

What was so troubling that a radio show that seemed quite fine should result in upset, after the fact?

The answer is a complex, long and involved one. 

The short version is that Terry and I, apparently, were so much at ease in our back and forth dialogue (But then, of course, we are two women!) we both, inadvertently, ended up sharing more than felt safe, at the time.

After all coming out of the hiding one has been doing for a lifetime of guarding one’s words does not come together with a person feeling, instantaneously, safe enough yet to give up one’s guard.

This is a HUGE issue! "The Cost of The Quiet" and the risk of speaking out!

On a personal level, I have been publicly discussing the "Cost of the Quiet" for a good number of years now. At last count I found four related radio shows on Anastasia The Storyteller and numerous blog articles.

The radio shows on Anastasia The Storyteller Radio begin on March 29, 2014 and run through July 5, 2014. You can find them still listed on that web site, available now on podcast. They are also listed below --

I also found three blog posts, focusing on the theme of what it can mean for a woman, when she hides some of the most important aspects of herself and her daily life.

There By The Grace of G-d Go I: Dangers of the unknown/undisclosed Self (March 24, 2014)

The Cost of the Quiet (July 9, 2014)

And most recently The Cost Of The Quiet, 2017  (October 10.29.2017)

There is so much that is wonderful that can happen when we invite storytelling and story listening into our lives. And there is such a cost if we do not! 

Then there is the downside, the risk that might not pan out. What to do? What to do?

Listen in to my next Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Show when I will take up this topic further; the “cost of the quiet” and the consequences of giving full voice to who and what one might be. That show, titled "Listen And Learn, Tell AndTremble: Two Sides Of A Coin," will be broadcast this coming Saturday, March 17 at 11:30 a.m. 

I hope you can join me. I will be taking callers at: 646.564.9608. 

Saturday, March 3, 2018

Broadcast: Anastasia Introduces New #MeToo Era Radio Shows

On a brief broadcast, filling in for the rescheduled earlier program, originally planned for today, to be aired next Saturday, March 10 at 11:30 a.m.,  New Horizons Executive Director, Anastasia Rosen-Jones, introduced listeners to the “new” #MeToo Era Radio Shows to be broadcast weekly, as time allows, on Anastasia The Storyteller Radio

Read all about the content of what lies ahead for this new era program and its next project, Beyond Gender Tyranny on:

And, tune in next week, March 10 at 11:30 a.m. for the broadcast, “Story Listening, By Males, Takes Precedence In The #MeToo Era,” originally scheduled for today.

Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Upcoming Radio Show Broadcast: Story Listening In The #MeToo Era

Program rescheduled due to storm and power outage conditions.
Check back for new date and time tba.

In this show, to be broadcast Saturday morning, March tba, Anastasia (Me) returns to discuss the importance of "story listening," especially, but not exclusively, by men, in the era of #MeToo.

Broadcast details below.

The show’s discussion will build on Anastasia’s introduction, last Friday evening, of New Horizons’ local #MeToo storytelling, story listening initiative, part of the Beyond Gender Tyranny project, at the Frederick Civil Society Supper Club

Listeners are invited to join the discussion. For details on the event, read my Open Letter To The Civil Society Supper Club.

Also check out prior podcasts, including --

Story “Listening” And Storytelling: The Importance Of Weaving Them Together.

And these articles on Anastasia The Storyteller blog site --

Saturday, March 3, 11:30 a.m.

Listener call ins invited at: 646.564.9608

Sunday, February 25, 2018

A Spectacular First Night Out!

An open letter to the Civil Society Supper Club

Dear Civil Society Supper Club,

At your dinner meeting, this past Friday, I presented a platform of perspectives, based on present day personal experiences, projects in motion, now, at New Horizons, the non-profit I head, and throughout our beloved community. I had every anticipation that my having the opportunity to introduce these at one of your weekly dinner events would be the venue to, in essence, publicly launch the next initiative of New Horizons’ Small “Zones of Peace,” the “Beyond Gender Tyranny” Project. 

I also thought your evening event would be a proper setting to openly discuss what is going on with me, personally, behind these efforts.

You did not disappoint me. In fact what I experienced and took away from our dinner discussion exceeded my hopes and dreams.

Mission accomplished!

For me what happened Friday evening in a cozy back room of the Mi Rancho Grande Restaurant in “smallish” Frederick, Maryland was spectacular!  Grande!

From that experience, I came away knowing that my/our next step for the "Beyond Gender Tyranny" project/movement is, definitely, to create and recreate, again and again, exactly what was accomplished that evening; consciousness-raising!

I know I experienced it then and there. And, believe others did too. I have experienced this before at your dinner events, not being the evening’s presenter. It is a testimony to your Civil Society Supper Club that you accomplish this, again and again.

I was so happy even, awed by what we created, with my contribution!

The willingness and the capabilities of each and every person present to take up threads of what I offered on a culturally volatile issue, sexual harassment and abuse, now surfacing from every corner of our society, and handle the topic in a fiery, passionate, yet civil, non-defensive manner was truly inspiring. 

As most of us know, today, these are critically important issues to which to give voice, to explore and seek new and better ways than we presently have. Throughout there are numerous obstacles to finding and implementing these ways.

And while the most “highly refined” applications of the “art of dialogue” still remain for members of this group to develop, at their highest levels, I did witness, every effort – and – the successful realization of the dedication to civil discourse to which this group is committed.

I applaud all of you.  And, thank you, most wholeheartedly for the gift of my being with you – and – having the opportunity to present my platform to you, in a setting that left me truly inspired for what lies ahead for me, as Executive Director of New Horizons, carrying forth our “Beyond Gender Tyranny” project in the fullest, most successful fashion I can.

I look forward to your inviting me back again for more of the same; an evening of dining and dialogue that I believe has every potential to help build what our Beyond Gender Tyranny project stands for – 

Forming safe community spaces that provide opportunities for generating consciousness raising experiences for men and women who want to overcome today’s gender divide based on a heartfelt desire to –
  • Mend the broken fences of male-female relationships; 
  • Build bridges of compassion and understanding.
To expand on the issues raised on Friday evening, but not yet discussed to their fullest, I wish to invite any one of the following members, one by one, of your Civil Society Supper Club to join me on my online radio show, Anastasia The Storyteller, for further dialogue on the following issues.  

(On Friday evening we were getting a bit into debate, which was a start, but did not yet go  as far as need be on the following critical issues. Each one of them being of an essential nature to be discussed thoroughly on to way to building a better culture for our children and ourselves, supported by our greatest wisdoms  –
  • J – A grandfather expressing concern on the subject of how today’s young girls, dressing to show off their bodies, are potentially, dangerously inflaming the lust of men.
  • L – A substitute teacher taking up the counter side of J’s issue; how and why today’s young women are intent on granting themselves the freedom to express their fullness as females, without taking responsibility for male lust
  • M – seeking clarification on the appropriate “rules of thumb” for conduct for today’s males toward females, from many different angles.
  • N – Just because I think she truly “got me” on the issues and obstacles my Ethics Complaint is raising for me.
  • I – Because she is a multi-faceted woman of wisdom that I would love to talk with further, by way of  encouraging her express her perspectives to my listening audience. 
Each one of the above issues are perking inside my mind. Each one of these individuals brought me something indelible to consider. As potential topics for my forthcoming radio shows, I would like to give each an airing, in the true style of authentic dialogue, rather than debate fashion, each issue deserves, along with inviting call ins from listeners.

On Friday evening we were just beginning to get below the surface on these gender related issues in a fashion that is so much what-we-don’t-talk-about-when-we-talk-about-#Metoo.

Also, on Friday evening, at your dinner event, I participated in an experience that I considered the “almost” best of what a civil society is capable.

Thank you so much for inviting me to be your evening's "table talker."


Anastasia Rosen-Jones
Executive Director
New Horizons Small "Zones of Peace" Project

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Civil Society Super Club Of Frederick To Host Anastasia’s Introduction Of Local #MeToo Storytelling, Story Listening Initiative, The Beyond Gender Tyranny Project

This coming Friday evening, the Civil Society Super Club Of Frederick will host Anastasia’s Introduction Of – 

New Horizons Small “Zones of Peace” #MeToo Storytelling, Story Listening Initiative, The Beyond Gender Tyranny Project.

Anastasia will speak on the topic of –

“The Harvey Weinstein/Hollywood Effect On Frederick and Beyond: The Impact On Local Lives"

Friday, February 23, 2018
7:00 p.m.

Mi Rancho Grande Restaurant
193 Thomas Johnson Drive
Frederick, Maryland 

RSVP: Mike Corrigan Cell: 301.695.8295 or email: 

Friday, February 16, 2018

Ethics Complaint Update: Lines Of Communication Are Opening

Lines of communication are opening, with dialogue being established between the International Transactional Analysis Association (ITAA) and myself!

What a turn of events, just when I had almost totally relinquished hope!

Still, even with progress being made, it’s been a bit taxing on my end, this past week, as I sat down to move more deeply into filing my formal Ethics Complaint for sexual harassment and power abuse, with my singularly, most important professional association, the International Transactional Analysis Association.

At this point, much to my delight, I do believe, however, that officials of the ITAA, represented by the current international president, are intending to work with me in such a way as to find doable options for managing the healing I need from making the Ethics Complaint I set out to file, the reconciliation needed and the amends due from the sordid situation.

In other words, a positive outcome is looking more and more assured!

Wouldn’t that be nice in this day and age of horrendous misdeeds and negligent, even criminal mishandling of situations of this nature?

I would be so proud of my organization, ITAA, should this all pan out!  And, myself, too!

My complaint, as you may recall, will be regarding my being sexually harassed by a trainer/supervisor,  as well as being severely victimized as the revenge consequences of my rebuff of the aggressor. The result of that horrific episode, in addition to the emotional distress, is that it resulted in major disruption and harm to my professional credentials and revenue.

From where I sit now, it is difficult to know whether the actual sexual harassment was the most distressing or the punishment it garnered.

Nonetheless, today, rather than upset as I was a few weeks back, I am now beginning to feel hopeful that a resolve will be achieved, along with the caring, concern and respect due me.

Right now, I am just trying to come to terms, for myself, with what this whole episode; the finding of the buried documents, opening my mind to what actually happened originally, how and why I suppressed it all for so long, even concealing it from myself, let alone from others, means for me.

Then the initial, informal complaint making back in December, the being ignored for so long, relative to the seriousness of the situation and now experiencing the door opening to resolve and feeling an important new chapter of my life unfolding.

This article has a decent synopsis of what my charges are about, including the ones about my not being responded to by the Ethics Committee.

Oh my! Oh my! I can barely keep up with myself.

I will provide further details and updates as I get myself sorted out.

Sunday, February 11, 2018

Ethics Complaint: Formal Process Now In Motion!

Wouldn’t it be lovely if....?

If there would be a happy ending to this saga?

If you, my supporters and readers, would have opportunity to hear about a sexual harassment/abuse ethics complaint being handled with caring and respect, even with a few bumps in the road?

Copy of text, this morning, to my close inner circle of supporters.
Have now received and downloaded "formal ITAA Ethics Complaint form and have begun organizing for response.
The process of completing the form might take as long as a month or better. 
Am now on my way, heading for whatever "gold" lies ahead. 
I am almost overjoyed! And relieved! 
Liberation lies ahead!
Thank you for your kind and generous support. 
Please keep it coming. Long road ahead with hopefully a happy ending.
Happy day, Anastasia